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At the root of most anxiety is the wish that the world were different. Let go of this and you immediately feel more at peace. Stop judging. Display these words on your Wall of Confidence. Make them your prime motto:

Everything is exactly as it should be, and always works out for the best. I am at peace with myself and the world. Nothing and no one can destroy my peace.

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Give up being dishonest. Confident people have no need to be untruthful, so always keep your word.

For the next 24 hours don’t allow a single untruth to pass your lips. Then carry on for another 24 hours and so on. If you fail, just start again and never give up.

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Live in the present moment and you are well on the way to lasting peace of mind.

Right now, probably all is well in your world, but the moment you allow your thoughts to wander to the past your inner peace is shattered until you bring it back to the present moment.

The only moment over which you have any control is now. Every moment, even the most ordinary is a precious gift. When you’re clear on what’s really important and focus on what you can do right now, the future has a habit of taking care of itself.

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Imagine what it would be like if you were connected to a Universal Intelligence that works tirelessly for your benefit, offering you all the confidence you need. Imagine it guiding and supporting you, nourishing your mind and body and taking care of you.

Imagine you could live securely in the knowledge that everything that happens is for your ultimate benefit.

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Now live as if this were true. Look for your happiness and security in a higher way of thinking. You’ll find fear and anxiety fading into oblivion. Life takes on an entire new meaning and you never lack confidence again!

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This final confidence builder is the secret of a long, happy, confident and fulfilling life. It comes from the New Testament:

‘In love, I live and move and have my being.’

Acts 17:26

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I am at one with the Intelligence that created me. I am at peace.

If you’ve worked conscientiously through this book you have taken great strides forward in the last 12 months. You are more self-aware. You know how to set goals, think more confidently, imagine yourself as confident and behave more confidently. If you don’t believe me, repeat the marks out of ten exercises (Confidence Builders 8, 9 and 10) and compare these marks with what you gave yourself before.

Occasionally you may have felt yourself slipping back a little from time to time. This is perfectly normal; I call this the ‘ratchet effect’ – two big steps forward, then one small step back. But if you hang on to your resolve, the overall trend is always upwards. Be patient, keep your eye on the ball, treat setbacks with equanimity and persevere.

I recently spent a fortnight at a holistic holiday centre in Greece where I met a determined young woman who was well on the road to greater confidence and self-esteem. As she reflected on her recent experiences, she uttered the words you will find below. When you become more confident and look back on your life, her sentiments will be yours too.

‘I’m not going back into the

prison I created for myself’

Susanne Warren,

in Skyros, Greece, June 2000

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Bibliography

Alan Cohen, I Had it All the Time, (Cassette tape programme) Hay House, 1996.

Dr Wayne Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones, Warner Books, 1992.

Dr Wayne Dyer, Pulling Your Own Strings, Arrow Books, 1978.

Mike George, The Secrets of Self-Management, (Cassette tape programme) Brahma Kumaris Information Services Ltd., 2000.

Marcia Grad, Charisma, Wilshire Books, 1986.

Dr Susan Jeffers, Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway, Arrow Books, 1991.

Gael Lindenfield, Super Confidence, Thorsons, 1992.

James Redfield, The Celestine Prophecy, Bantam Books, 1994.

Martin Shepard, DIY Psychotherapy, Vermillion, 1996.

David Swindley, Only The Truth Shall Set You Free, Inner Power Publications, 1998.

Ros Taylor et al, Confidence In Just Seven Days, Vermilion, 2000.

Eckhart Tolle, The Power Of Now, New World Library, 1999.

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About the Author

David Lawrence Preston spent 20 years in business and higher education before devoting himself full time to teaching and writing on personal development, and establishing a private psychotherapy and life coaching practice. He is also Curriculum Leader (Complementary Therapies) for Bournemouth Adult Education on the English south coast, and runs courses and seminars on all aspects of confidence and personal and spiritual development. He has appeared many times on radio and television.

David has produced a set of cassette tapes and booklets, The DLP Audio Programme, which offer a practical step-by-step approach to building confidence, happiness and prosperity.

For further details write (enclosing a stamped addressed envelope or international reply paid coupon) to:

The DLP Hypnotherapy Centre

14 Stanfield Road

Winton

Bournemouth

BH9 2NW.

Tel/fax: [phone].

e-mail david_l_preston @hotmail.com

or visit the DLP web site (http://www.david-preston.com).

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